Tea of the Week

Week #2: July 23, 2017

“You are not alone!”

This week we were able to dive into a conversation about Mental Health and Therapy/Recovery. If you missed the meeting and would like to contribute to the conversation you can comment below to answer some of the questions that were asked/topics discussed during “Tea of the Week”.

Take a second to watch this video about mental health and give the NAMI site a look! https://vimeo.com/36995523

1. Why are we not allowed to have “weak” moments?
2. Should we rely on therapy or religion? Should there be a combination of both?
3. When do you know that enough is enough? When should you seek help?
4. Why are we more inclined as a culture to be prideful and not ask for help?
5. How do we stop the cycle to heal our families?

Feel free to share personal stories or suggestion on how to handle problems concerning mental health in the comments section below!

Week #1: July 16, 2017

Topics: Interracial Relationships and Sex in the South

Outlets: Zoom Meeting (Code: 520 228 5712)

Tonight’s Session of TeaNoLye was one for the books. I’m happy about the conversation that was had about Interracial Dating and Sex in the South. If you missed the meeting and would like to contribute to the conversation you can ponder and comment below to answer some of the questions that were asked during “Tea of the Week”.

Interracial Dating:
1. If you were able to date outside of your race which race would you prefer? Why?
2. If you have dated interracially describe your experiences.
3. Could you be in a relationship with someone who didn’t understand certain aspects of your culture?
4. Is it more acceptable for Black men or Black women to date interracially?

Sex in the South
1. Why do you believe sex is a topic that is shied away from in the South?
2. Why is it more acceptable to talk to boys about sex while girls are left to figure things out on their own?
3. Why are the negative outcomes of sex solely blamed on females?
4. How has religion shaped our views and conversations about sex?
5. Does color change our perceptions about sex?
6. Who taught you about sex?
7. Does the black family use guilt to encourage principles of abstinence?

6 thoughts on “Tea of the Week

  1. Christopher Chance says:

    Hmmmm so a lot of questions being asked here, so I’ll just go in order and hopefully I’m not too wordy tonight.

    Interracial Dating:
    1. Although I never have, I’m all about dating anyone outside of my race. There are so many beautiful people in every single race out there, that if I had the opportunity, I would certainly date any of them provided that they let me be comfortable with who I am because I am a “unique” individual to say the least and they are understanding of the struggles that I have to go through as a Black man in this country. As long as I find someone like that who lets me be me as well as an understanding person to my situation, I can date anyone who catches my eye….

  2. Christopher Chance says:

    … At the same time I’m not one to leave a question completely unanswered like that so I’ll be completely real in sayin that I’ve had a little extra love for the Indian ladies out there. Some of them have some of the most beautiful faces and features this side of the Black woman. They don’t always age the best (maybe it’s a cultural thing?), but when they are in their youth, they are some of the most beautiful people on this planet, imho of course.

  3. Christopher Chance says:

    2. Only dated Black women

    3. I could somewhat, but at some point, shawty needs to be able to hang around my fam and my friends and be able to be ok with it. She also needs to understand the struggle I go through just like I need to understand the struggle she goes through if she were Muslin, Hispanic, etc.

  4. Christopher Chance says:

    4. Loaded question here. I preface this entire statement by saying that I am a Black man and that I only have the experience from the perspective of a Black man.

    I honestly think that Black men get it worse dating outside of the race than vice versa. The only reason I think this is because I think that Black women have been beaten down in this country. From birth, Black women are subconsciously told that they aren’t as beautiful as their white counterparts; they’re told that their culture or features aren’t breathtaking (only to have them appropriated later) and all of it takes a toll. How are you supposed to go about doing anything other than proving you are great when you’re constantly told that you’re not? It doesn’t get much better when you combine it with the fact that many Black men take it upon themselves to demean and degrade their Black sisters….

  5. Christopher Chance says:

    …I honestly think that this has left the majority of Black women to have a sense of self-reliance. Black women truly start to realize how effing incredible they are and realize that despite all of the challenges that they have against them, they rise up and make 5 star lemonade out of the sourest of lemons. Then, after they fins their self-worth, they have to sit up and listen to how they have an attitude and they’re difficult to deal with because they don’t let men do whatever they want (like I’ve seen certain other races do). The fact is, a lot of men (not just Black men) cannot handle Black women just because they aren’t mature enough or don’t have the patience to deal with a woman who knows what she brings.

  6. Christopher Chance says:

    …I think that Black women are more vocal about things that they have a problem with and to see a Black man decide to go date someone else because of all of these things I’ve mentioned and then hides behind the guise of “she had an attitude” or whatever the reason is more than a painful memory. I have tons more to say on this, but I also want to get to the Sex in the South questions and want to see if anyone wants to comment on what I’ve said. It’s also late, so I’ll be back, hopefully this leads to a great convo!

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