I’m Tryna Kim, But I Can’t

For you Bible lovers let me pull it out real quick.

“Therefore, putting aside all malice and all deceit and hypocrisy and envy and all slander,” (1 Peter 2:1) “to malign no one, to be peaceable, gentle, showing every consideration for all men.” (Titus 3:2)”If anyone thinks himself (herself) to be religious and yet does not bridle his tongue. . . this man’s religion is worthless. “(James 1:26)“Do not speak against one another, brethren He who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks against the law and judges the law; . . .” (James 4:11).

Is some of this taken out of context? Eh. Probably. But for the purpose of making a point isn’t it always? (NO Tea, NO Shade) For me, the context isn’t the point, the actual words written? That is where the point lies. When put together, with the addition of very little words to tie them together, those versus create one powerful paragraph that speaks on the magnitude of one’s religion, the purpose of one’s tongue,  and the hypocrisy that seeps from it.

Disclaimer: If you are SUPER religious, this post might not be for you and you might want to leave now. I love you just the same and hopefully, after this post, you will still have love for me. 

Growing up, I was raised in the church. If you are a little black kid in the south, your story is pretty much the same. Every Sunday. Every Wednesday. Sunday School before service and Vacation Bible School every Summer. Baptized real early and I even attended a Christian Academy. Here awas often praised for how fast I could remember Bible Verses. I could recite the books of the Bible and then tell you how many were isolated to the Old and New Testament. I always came in 1st place when we did Bible races and it felt good to know that I had that kind of knowledge in my mind. That knowledge later developed in my heart too. When I was actually old enough to understand what was being hammered into my head every day of the week. The one thing that stood out to me though, was The Golden Rule. I always wondered why this one thing stuck out and of course, through growth I figured out why. “The Golden Rule” is the one rule that exists across all cultures, religions, and spirituality. Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you. Simple. 

That was indeed the simplest rule of all besides the obvious “judge not” mantra which people seem to have the worst problem with. Now, If you know me, you know I have an opinion about damn near everything. So when it comes to the topic of sexuality and gender identification, my blood boils. I absolutely hate talking to Christians about these topics because no one ever wants to listen.

The answer is always:The answer is always:
"Well, Taylor, what have you done to help them? 
Because that mindset is not right. It's not normal."

What have I done to help them!? Who have got to be shitting me right now. <— That’s the face I always make.

I have shown them love and I have listened, because last time I checked, I was told to love everyone despite whether or not they agree with me or not. But what bothers me is that now because I do not oppose their views and their behaviors, I am not Christian enough to continue the conversation! *adds Jack to Tea* Child look, I am not the one who can turn water to wine, and if you are amongst those who feel you can “Pray the Gay Away” get right down on your knees and get started, but you will NOT catch me doing it. I show love and compassion towards my friends who are apart of the LGBTQ community because THAT is the most Christ-like thing to do. Passing judgments and casting stones, like us Christians like to refer to it, does absolutely nothing for THEIR FAITH nor does it do anything POSITIVE for MINE.  I pray with them. I exchange testimonies with them and I hope that I can find clarity in their mindsets. The same things black people wish white people would take the time to do, I do without thinking with members of their communities.

Now the comparison I’m going to make won’t be fair to some but it’s my blog and I’m going to make it anyway. The two things in 2016 that I felt Black Christians actually cared about were the War against Black Lives and the small victories of the LGBTQ community.

FOX News representative Tomi Lahren expressed her concerns about Colin Kapernick’s protest of the National Anthem back in August. She went so far as to say, ” Kaepernick has the First Amendment right to expression and so do I.” In her expression, she bashed him for standing up for what he believed in (which might I add was done so tastefully) and then validated it by saying she had right to ridicule, taunt, bash, and undermine Kaepernick for the sake of the 1st amendment. Ok, look, yes by default, she is correct. She had the right to say whatever the hell she wanted to, but what she said was nasty, disgusting, and foul. Kaepernick took a knee, and she tried to kill him with her tongue. You Christians know that one too right? Life and death lie in the power of the tongue? Yep! This one video broadcast, sent people scrolling and typing in a frenzy, saying she can’t use that defense of the use of the 1st amendment to ruin a man’s career. She can’t use the freedom of speech to speak ill about another person. Kaepernick didn’t hurt anyone! She just can’t, because it’s NOT RIGHT. Anyone see where I’m going with this?

Tomi Lahren: Colin Kaepernick:: Kim Burrell: LGBTQ Community

And her defense? Christianity. And the Christian defense? ” As a Woman of God, she is entitled to her opinion and I support her”. That statement in itself, is hypocritical if you even fixed your mouth to dispute Tomi Lahren’s claims against Kaepernick. If you believe in the Bible, she (Burrell) technically shouldn’t even be in the pulpit to begin with. But you know, we like to take only the stuff that applies and run with it.

Let me talk to yall about this here religion. It is not for the down-trodden and the heavy-hearted. However, the spiritual relationship you have with God is. That is what truly matters. He will answer you regardless of your skin color, your sexual orientation, or your secular beliefs. Because of this blessing, tithe toward the world he created. Sow seeds of life into those you come across and you will be rich with love and guidance and protection from Him. He loves us all and honestly speaking, if we had to juxtapose the faith of the traditional Christian and a member of the LGBTQ community, I  would put my gay friends up against your best Christian any day. My friends have a faith that is unfathomable. I was always taught to surround myself with like people. All my friends love God, attend church faithfully, minister to others, tithe and/or give consistently, and speak life into the world. If that isn’t enough for you because of who they chose to love, just know these acts are good enough and I truly believe they are good enough for my God, and for my spiritual journey. That is good enough for me.  I hope that one day, we can stop putting a label on what God loves and what he doesn’t for the sake of his Kingdom. “For the kingdom of God is not a matter of talk but of power.” 1 Corinthians 4:20.

Just Keep Sippin,


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